Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I don't do the Peg Bundy........

The other day I had an old acquaintance of mine{not married no kids} actually say to me..."God you are so lucky to be at home so what do you do with yourself all day?" Oh you know scratch my ass, beat the dogs the usual. First I do not know what gives another human being the right to ask that question. To me that goes on the same shelf  as the dreaded when are you due? Even when I was single and had no desire to have kids I would have never gone up to a person and asked that question. I am super fortunate to be able to stay at home and raise my little demon seed I know I am,  but it is definitely hard on the mind especially when your ass was used to working all the time. Yeah.... we sometimes have about an hour or two down time but so do people at work when they cruise eBay or porn on their work computer so I don't' want to hear any BS.  Like Peg Bundy I do not

  • Eat bon bons all day while watching the day time talk shows 
  • Smoke cigarettes while making dinner when she decided to make dinner {used to in the old days but cooking also came with allot of wine}
  • Shop garage sales cuz we have none were we live
  • Treat my children like shit 
  • Treat my husband like shit 
  • Chase my husband for sex
  • Teeter around the house all day in high healed mules and tight capris
  • Sit on my ass all day 
  • I have never like Oprah 
I am sooo sick and tired of having to defend my stay at home status. I am a mother working or non working we all bust our humps to make sure our home, family and selves are taken care of so let's try and rethink some questions when asked. 


Annie@Letters to Mo said...

I'm a working mama cause I have to for financial reasons but also because I love my profession. Every Saturday I watch Cash alone while hubs works. By the time he comes home I'm standing at the door holding Cash going, "here". That shit is hard and exhausting. Power to you Mama. People say stupid shit daily. I shudder to think of what I said before I had kids.

Jenny Georgio-who said...

I don't think people who don't have kids know exactly what goes into staying home all day. It's NOT that easy. There are days when I'm home all day with D that I just want to pull my hair out.

Working actually makes me more patient with her and makes me value my time with her more.

If people think being a stay at home mom is about bonbons while watching Oprah I'd invite them to switch places for a few hours!

Andrea said...

I have a friend who worked with her kids in daycare and I stayed home (and if I had a career I loved before I had my cherubs, things might have been different)...she would always say "Oh, I'd go crazy...I'd be so bored...I couldn't just sit around" Bored? Sitting around? With two kids 4 and 1 at the time? HA!

Kerry said...

Perfectly put!! Couldn't agree more :)

Unknown said...

Love the truth of this post! My daughter's dad and I are not a couple but we co-parent and have done so while living in the same house and not. (The words never again are coming to mind lol). We made a decision that unless it became dire, I would not work and he would. I stayed home, I home schooled until 3rd grade (public 3/4 split public/home since then), and did odd jobs I could do while being mom. I would get so frustrated when people would have the nerve to say "Must be nice". Yes, it's nice to drive crap cars, live within our means (and many times under), and go without so many things so my kiddo never went without. Thanks for asking. Christ, what is wrong with people? Some people stay at home, some work. Did I ever say "It must be nice to leave the house eight hours a day and have childcare". Nope. Somehow, I found things to occupy all my spare time and ways to spend the copious amounts of cash that come with one working parent...*eye roll inserted for good measure* Love this post!

insomnia said...

I have the best of both worlds. I'm home all week with the kids and work every Friday Saturday and Sunday. I love sitting home all day doing nothing if I choose and I also love to go to work to be with grown ups and have real conversations. I see both sides and both have their advantages.

Mommy Bags said...

I think what bugs me is people assume that is what a stay at home does all day know it is not a job but it is challenging in every way especially your first time around.....That is why I am stopping at one lol

Knocked Up in Bama said...

Oh Peggy B. The role model for all mothers! You mean, that's not what happens?? Time to return my hot-pant stock. ;)

Keep up the hard, rewarding work! I salute you and all you do for your family!

Not Winning Mom of the Year said...

My sister (no hubs or kids) is the same way. So she calls me and asks me to do things for her " since your not doing anything can you research laptops for me to buy?" LIKE WTF? I'll just put the kids in the closet with a box of crackers and get right on that. The nerve! I would have kicked the person who asked you that. Tell me where they live, I'll go over and kick them cause us SAHM's need to stick together.

Im A Silly Mami said...

LOL!I blogged about our dear friend Peg back in Nov. I get that shit all the time and it pisses me the hell off! We totally work our asses off - 24/7. http://www.imasillymami.com/2011/11/i-am-not-peg-bundy.html

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