"Dude do I really come off as that big of a bitch? I mean I talk to everyone and I am the first one to introduce myself in a social situation? I don't feel like I am a bitch to people...do I?"
"It is not like you look like a bitch, more like your really, really intimidating." Hubby says
"What do you mean?" I say
"Well...you know your intimidating in a nice way and your confident when you walk into a room some people are intimidated by that...You know you look like you can take care of yourself."
"WTF so that makes no damn sense at all. So if I am those things I am automatically pegged to be a bitch?" I grunted
But in a way I knew what he meant. I had been hearing the same thing for years.
- It is hard to truly get to know you - Yep because the times I have let people truly in I have gotten screwed and screwed hard. I have learned my lesson and I do not feel like going through that shit again. So I tread very cautiously with new relationships and I do not trust anyone except my close family and hubby. LDG will fit in that equation once she truly knows what trust is.
- You have a wall up it is hard to break through/thought you were a bitch - See above....I love bloggin because it has made it easier for me to chip away at the wall little by little and you know what I am a bitch when I need to be.
- Why don't you smile more. Because when you were raised in the city and had to take the 14 Mission bus in a Catholic school girl uniform you learn not to smile in fear of getting your ass kicked. People who look like they know what they are doing and going avoid stepping in the puddle of shit. Show no fear baby.
I am a work in progress trying to improve myself everyday....No one is perfect.
***P.S. I am also very opinionated and always have been if peeps don't like it they can SUCK lemons.
6 comments:
Seriously... were we separated at birth? I often get the same reaction too - and being outspoken and often opinionated doesn't help the intimidation factor much either. I also keep everyone at arms length due to past dick-overs. Trust is something that should be earned. I wish so much that I was a more down to earth trusting soul, but I'm not. If I were, I'd probably be a more content, and overall happy person. I can be nice as pie and have no problems in new social situations; but I'm very perceptive to vibes I get off people and that usually determines how engaged I am with them upon meeting them. It's just a line of defense.
i get that too -- i am intimidating simply on the fact that i am 5'8" & always wear 3-4" heels at a minimum. bitch in heels -- yup that's me!
i also have a hard time hiding what i am thinking/feeling -- that often gets mistake for bitchiness?
i am just keeping it real...
bitches be crazy & shit...
I am the same way you can tell exactly what I am thinking by just looking at the expression on my face and what my eyebrows due. I am very opinionated and I think that sometimes it rubs people the wrong way but I am not going to be one of those chicks that does not speak up
I'm glad we can see some of the real you here, because yea, if you come across as intimidating, I would probably stay away from you! I am the total opposite. I am very open and down to earth-- kinda hippie-ish :-) But I'm sure you already figured that out! So I think it's interesting we can like and enjoy each other through writing, but our first impressions of each other might not be favorable!!!
I like you just the way you are!!!
Are there any pictures of you here on your blog cause I've just realised I don't even know what you look like :)
MB Darling,
Being a bitch isn't a bad thing... it's kind of like a calling card! lol And besides, most people get the definition wrong between bitch and confidence... they do with me all the time... xoxo
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