Am I missing the wedding

*Before I proceed with this post this is MY opinion-mine only.  This is how I see it from my eyes if you have learned anything from reading my posts I pretty much lay it all out . This is a point to a blog to be as honest as you can and not sugar coat it just to make everyone out in blogland happy. I have placed the word SOME which means NOT all people think and/or are like this. Just feel the need to clarify this point so I do not get hit with hate emails from the wedding planning brides.

Did I not get the wedding planning gene? Is it something that was not placed in my body when I was born? Is it weird that I cannot stand bridal magazines/sites and  I have never in my life said that I want to look like a princess and I have been planning my wedding since I was 4 - is that even possible? Can you have a memory at 4 about your friggin wedding? Shit I probably was playing in trees and in sand boxes at four I was not sitting in a corner with a bridal magazine trying to figure out themes to my future wedding which could/or could not have happened in the foreseen future. I mean their is a trend were women are booking/paying for their wedding just insert groom when groom happens to appear. I watch a movie like Bridal Wars and I think wow what a couple of assholes instead of ahhhh what a couple of sweet girls who just got caught up in bridal fever. Am I weird because I do not get why some people spend up to 2 plus years prepping for one and when they do all they can do is friggin talk about it to the point of nausea before and after the event? I am not insensitive I know that this is a special event in someones life but I feel brides and now some couples spend all this time prepping, planning/blogging about the damn wedding they do not stop and think if the person they are about to marry is suitable as a life long mate.  Some people have become so "brainwashed" by the perfect wedding they do not think "hey is this person I am marrying someone I want to wake up to first thing  in the morning and the last face I see before I go to sleep for the rest of my f*ckin life?" With shows like Say Yes to the Dress, Who's wedding is it anyways and the worst one Bridezillas. It is hard not to see what some people really think of the sacrament of marriage. In the last 8 years most of the weddings I have been to are now couples going through a divorce. With the divorce rate at 50% nationally and 56% in my county it is just plain scary.
I think marriage has become such a let's have a wedding no big deal if it doesn't work we can divorce kind of thing - 12 months of marriage is not trying to work it out} with people putting more thought into their damn favors than they do to as why they are getting married in the first place. I  have seen  people who were not able to pay their monthly car payment but spend a shit load of money on a wedding dress to be worn just once to turn around and then go out to buy another dress because they did not like the first one they bought.

Oh and I know that some of you are thinking ......She is  just jealous because of blah,blah and blah {which by the way is the go to excuse for anyone who doesn't like to hear the truth}. Nope sorry can't say that I am. This is not my first rodeo I have been married once before and let me tell you if I had sat down and really thought about WHY I was marrying this person I would not have a divorce under my belt. I was young{21}, dumb and full of innocent spirit that thought I would be married forever {lasted 8 years}. If I had to do it all over again I would have never married so young. I hate to admit this{f*ck) but I should have listened to my dad. He knew that my first husband was not the mate for me. But I was {what I thought} was in love and my mom got so wrapped up planning the damn wedding - it was all her the first time around she wanted the wedding to be perfect {there is that damn word again} I failed to see the warning signs. Second time around I was lucky and found the love of my life the person I was supposed to be with. When we decided to tie the knot after being/living together for 6 years we decided that it would be a party we spent very little time planning which equaled no stress it and it was a blast! Ceremony was 7 minutes long,  enough to share our vows get blessed and then it was party time which meant open bar before the ceremony and open bar through out the wedding. Yes we cut the cake but we did not make everyone stop what they were doing to watch us cut the damn cake. We had music throughout the night and most of out guests were dancing before dinner was even served.  Celebration = fun, not some uptight obsession of having to have everything "perfect" whatever perfect is based on what stupid bridal magazine/website is deeming "perfect" today. But hey the bridal industry is a billion dollar business so someone out there is feeding into the bullshit.

Maybe I miss hearing about couples who have been married for 47 years or the newscast I saw the other day about the couples who has been married for 85 years....Now that to me is trying.