WTF is wrong

with me. I have been busy not just a little busy but over the top losing my mind running around all over the f*ckin place busy. So I have been lagging on WTF Friday. I have not had 2 minutes to sit down and go through my list and for that I am sorry. I am currently working on it but it might not happen to later this evening because I am once again getting shit ready to bounce out the door.

I have a bunch of fun shit but I have not had the time to get it all down.

Happy 4th of

July everyone. Blessed to be living in such a great country! Everyone out there be safe and have a friggin good time!

Have we have become.....

a society scared of disciplining our children? I ask that very question today because I saw something in a store that kind of disturbed me. Yesterday as I was getting my grocery shop on I saw a 5 year old little boy reach out and slap his mom dead center in the face. Now this was not I am excited mom and your little one might make contact with your face because they are jumping up and down on your lap. This was a full on back slap right in the ol' kisser. Mom did not seem shocked in the least which makes me believe that this was not the first time little Timmy has made contact with moms face. Judging by the look on his face{no remorse} little Timmy did not give a shit{he stuck his tongue out at his mom after the slap}. A few people were staring and I felt bad for the mom because I have been there. My little one has never hauled off and slapped me but I have had to leave a couple of restaurants cuz I could see a major melt down coming our way.  I would rather make a quick exit than have to sit there and explain why I discipline MY child the way I do. I really do not feel like dealing with the judgement because with my lovely patience level things would come out of my mouth that would be not so nice. I do not need tisk tisk from from people around me. BTW these are usually the same people who bitch you and your kids out when they are not behaving just so in public. 

It was nothing really scary but it was enough to make me wonder -  have so many people stuck their big noses in how we raise our children that we can no longer properly discipline our little ones in turn making them the little monsters that we sometimes see running a muck in our local malls? I see no more respect for parents at all. Some of these kids are completely out of control. I have seen mothers slapped,  bitched/cussed out and just plain being disrespected. I grew up Italian style and shit like that just did not fly in our house. I remember that when we went out to dinner we behaved and if we chose not to behave after receiving the raised eye brow warning from my dad when we got home their was hell to pay.  Because we respected. Some people like to state that we feared our parents.....and yes we did but we also respected the shit out of them. I see none of that today. Today too many parents want to be "best friends" to their children afraid of not looking cool they give int to whatever the kids want. No boundaries are being set. With no boundaries comes bratiness. 


Time out sometimes works but most of the time when your dealing with an out of control toddler it does not and I don't give a shit how many experts say this is the way to go. Dr. Sears can suck it! Dr. Sears is not in the mommies shoes during a tantrum and Sr. Sears is not there when mommy needs establish some control. Sometime Timmy needs a spanking in the butt in order to get the point across.  I believe in light spanking if all else fails and I am NOT a bad mom.

Am I the only one out there that feels sometimes your dammed if you do and your dammed if you don't? 

Need some support.....

Jen's fighting Italian spiciness and spirit is going to beat this! 

ova' here from my bloggy friends out there. I have a true blue old school family friend who is battling breast cancer. It is something that in this present day world we are hearing about much too often. She was 39 when she received her diagnosis one month after her mother passed away. It is tough as shit watching  a friend that you used to play/hang out with while rockin'  out in the streets to the San Francisco 49'er rap song when we were just little tikes go through such struggles in such a short period of time.  To have to go through something as painful as losing your mom then having to go through the ordeal of chemo/radiation and dealing with shit head, no feeling, robot managing insurance companies it SUCKS!  WE all know someone who has gone through/is going through the fight of their life when battling  cancer. Take the time to read her story and see if you can help.


Remember a little goes a long way...

Here is the link we have some good momentum going but it would rock balls if we could help her out in anyway.
Getting through chemo without drowning in bills


Below is a short summary of what she has had to deal with on top of trying to fight for her life.

This campaign is to raise money for Jennifer Quilici. She is only 39 when diagnosed with breast cancer. This year her mom died suddenly of a glioblastoma brain tumor, She passed away soon after the diagnosis. They asked that a brain biophys be done so that the tumor could be staged. She never woke up again and she passes 3 days later due to a brain hemmorage.  The next month Jennifer was diagnosed with breast cancer. Its not the simple one since its in her lympnodes. She will have to undergo 4 months of chemo followed by 2 months of radiation. Her Pet scans alone are 15, 000 meaning her copay is 3,000. She is part of that group  of people that are under insured. It is amazing how the bills just keep piling up. we make to much money to qualify for public assistance yet we are barely making ends meet. We just recently received medical bills in the thousands  from Queen of the Valley Hospital in Napa. her birthday is 05-22-1972 as to not be confused with anyone else. This road is a difficult one and we will beat this cancer. Her chemo treatment that will roughly cost 160,000 with Jenn's responcibility being 30%. She is getting the chemo treatment at redwood medical center in Napa, California we will notify them if monies would like to be directly donated to them on behalf of Jenn. This is not the end of our road but a seperate journey that has altered our course we still have school to finish, traveling  children. Just need some help so that we can get there.


Oh and BTW this is for you cancer

I have never hidden the fact that I started late on the baby making - I got pregnant at 39 and had GG at 40. It is not uncommon in the area where I live to see first time mommies in late late 30's and early 40's. Women are getting married later in life after they get to where they want to be in their careers and do them for a bit before settling down and doing the baby/family thing. I love that this miracle happened to us later in life. It gave us the opportunity to travel the world and get our party out of our systems.  That being said though their is not a day that I do not calculate the years...OMG I will be 55 when GG turns 15 it is a daily mental battle with my brain. I need to look like Christie Brinkley does at 58 because my daughter will be 18 and I want to make sure I don't feel and look old. Since I am not a believer in plastic surgery and botox - BTW I give it another 10-15 years and you something will come out saying botox  is bad for you and will cause some kind of cancer remember now about 40 years ago cigarette smoke was also good for you...Also who the hell wants to look like this - in about 20 years everyone is going to start looking like little plastic figurines. Scary...

Anyway my biggest concern besides not wanting to feel/look old and being healthy for my GG is the old dreaded friggin word that every woman fears in the age range of 48-55 comes around MENOF*CKINPAUSE. Just imagine when I hit 50 I am going to deal with a 10 year old and menopause....Happy Happy Joy Joy....... Oh lord. I am now reading everything that I possibly can on the subject. I will not go the synthetic hormone route so I have started researching some local hippy skippy nurses to keep it all natural.  If I have to pull a Samantha and spread yak fat all over my body so be it!  Am I just being weird?