bitch when I first saw you! But your like really down to earth and NICE.....Wasn't a shocker......Yep I hear that allot. This particular statement came from one of the mothers at our play group who I have gotten to know better....obviously. I told hubby the other day what this particular mom had said and I asked him
"Dude do I really come off as that big of a bitch? I mean I talk to everyone and I am the first one to introduce myself in a social situation? I don't feel like I am a bitch to people...do I?"
"It is not like you look like a bitch, more like your really, really intimidating." Hubby says
"What do you mean?" I say
"Well...you know your intimidating in a nice way and your confident when you walk into a room some people are intimidated by that...You know you look like you can take care of yourself."
"WTF so that makes no damn sense at all. So if I am those things I am automatically pegged to be a bitch?" I grunted
But in a way I knew what he meant. I had been hearing the same thing for years.
- It is hard to truly get to know you - Yep because the times I have let people truly in I have gotten screwed and screwed hard. I have learned my lesson and I do not feel like going through that shit again. So I tread very cautiously with new relationships and I do not trust anyone except my close family and hubby.
- You have a wall up it is hard to break through/thought you were a bitch - See above....I love bloggin because it has made it easier for me to chip away at the wall little by little and you know what I am a bitch when I need to be.
- Why don't you smile more. Because when you were raised in the city and had to take the 14 Mission bus in a Catholic school girl uniform you learn not to smile in fear of getting your ass kicked. People who look like they know what they are doing and going avoid stepping in the puddle of shit. Show no fear baby.
I am a work in progress trying to improve myself everyday....No one is perfect no matter how hard they try and make people believe that they are.....I am comfortable enough with myself to also know that if you don't like it you can suck lemons and kick rocks....Peace
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If I had a nickel.....
So here's how I deal with it.
My awesomeness is so awe inspiring that it fills a room and squeezes all rational thought from those who don't know me. They don't know that I have been so awesome for so long, that it no longer affects me like it does them. They cannot stand so close to my awesomeness so they rationalize their inadequacies by assuming I'm a bitch and think that they don't want to talk to me anyway. Everyone copes differently, who am I to say that they are judgmental and stupid? Whenever someone says that to me, I nod wisely and say "It must have been my awesomeness". It shows them that they are not alone in their fear and amazement.
Peace and Hedgehogs,
Susan
Oh yeah, love the wonder woman pic! :)
S
lol... You're my HUBBY!! lol He scares away all my friends until they get to know him... lol And I'm YOUR Hubby, "It's just that you have a very powerful presence and that can be quite intimidating to those that don't know you Honey!" lol See? That's why we get each other... xoxoxoxo
Haha at least people have the guts to tell you that! Plus, at least you're in a playgroup!! :-) That just shows that you are friendly. I can't bring myself to make the commitement and I don't want to have to chat with everyone...what does that make me?? :-)
hahah, I'm you ... or are you me? Is it bitchy to feel like you have to be worthy of getting to "know" me. Yeah it's bitchy, but I have dealt with this crap too many times.. rock on sista!
I would rather be around someone who is real that I have to earn their trust and friendship just like they have to earn mine...I hate fake, overly nice people! Drive me insane!
~Amy
Ladies thank you thank you thank you. I would rather be up front and real then nice and manufactured. This is ME take it or leave it. I am no longer in HS and need not deal with this shit.
Some people say "I love how you tell it like it is", and others just think I am a bitch...honest does not = nice, but it doesn't equal bitch either!
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