Thursday, April 5, 2012

Yesterday it happened......


the one thing I have been dreading and not looking forward to. I have a HUGE temper and it does not take much to set me off. I however have worked on myself and I am{believe it or not} allot calmer than I used to be. But when you mess with my daughter the mama bear comes out of me and I get pissed real quick. I was proud that I did not lose my cool yesterday when I happened to spot a bully in training mess with my daughter. GG gets along with everyone and she looks forward to going to the class every week. She has been participating in this particular class since she has been a little baby. GG is a tough girl but she is the youngest in the class by almost 8 months from all the other kids. For some reason this almost 3 year old  had a problem with my daughter and a few of the other girls for she did not only go after GG but she went after another girl in the class who is an absolute sweetheart. Now as mothers who are getting to communicate with other adults the first time all week we all sometimes get caught up in our chit chat but we are always watching out for each others kids in the class. I  believe the mother of this particular...eh emmm bullyIT did not notice what was going on because I am {hopefully} sure she would have done something about it.

The kids were all playing around the gym, they had just received colorful balls from the teacher and were having a great time just hanging out. At one point all the girls{of course} and one of the boys in the class were all in a row on top of one of the gym foam thing and for some unknown toddler Sybil reason this girl tries to take GG's ball from her. GG resisted and was not having her ball taken away from her.....Then this bullyIT did not like that GG was next to her friend in the class and she decided to shove her out of the way until GG hit the floor.  At that point I could see GG was not physically hurt but this bullyIT really hurt her feelings. It started with the "lip" quiver and then she started to cry. Now I do not coddle/helicopter mom my child  and I am the type of mom who will tell her daughter to suck it up when she takes a fall however I felt for her at that moment. I went over to pick her up shot a super dirty look to bullyIT {YOU BET YOUR ASS I DID}and I am not apologizing for it either. It was not cool and I saw the look on bullyIT face and she was doing it to be mean...period. Kids are a whole lot smarter than what we give them credit for and the whole kids will be kids does not fly with me.

Blah Blah yeah yeah yeah I should not have had it get to me but you know what until it happens to your little one no one has the right to judge what you would do with your emotions in that moment. The mother did nothing about it like I said I am hoping she did not say anything because she did not witness it their is always so much chaos in that class it is hard to keep track of all the kids running around.  After she was done with GG I saw her go after another little girl...same MO. Once again her mom was so busy chit chatting I do not think she saw it happen. I let it go this week but if happens next week we are going to have a problem and mommy dearest is going to get a wake up call {tactfully of course}.

Towards the end of the class all the little ones get around in a circle to sing a good by song. Of course bullyIT sits right next to us.....She looks over and shoots me the evil eye. At that moment I realize that she knew exactly what she did WAS wrong and she was making no apologies for it. That is what scared me the most.


5 comments:

joeh said...

Mom did not see it because she never sees it! That is why her little girl is a bitch in training.

This little girl has never been told NO! With any authority, I guarantee it!!

Tell "Mom" that her daughter is being a bully and if she does not say something you are going to simply tell the little girl "You are not allowed to do that, AND I will stop you everytime!!".

These little kids do not bother me, their BLIND parents PISS ME OFF!!
Been there, done that.

Cranky

DisneyBride2008 said...

I've had to tell children off for being mean to my little one who's the same age as yours. These children's "parents" are usually always chatting and ignoring their children and their actions :( Good for you!

Andrea said...

My daughter was in first grade when I had a quick little chat with the boy who'd been bothering her. Felt so good and so bad at the same time because his look was more apologetic.

Angela GiasCloset.com said...

Joeh is exactly right. The kid acts that way because the 'Mom' allows it. You'd get a kick out of the way I talk to other people's kids...WITHOUT HESITATION AND WITHOUT APOLOGIES-period. If YOU won't control your kid, I will (*only in your demon is putting my kid in harms way...pushing, shoving, stealing, etc) If your kid wants to jump off the slide like superman...have at it. Just as long as they don't land on my kids. You can hear my mom voice across the park...trust me. Loud and STERN..."DO NOT push your way through please", "I'm sorry, there is a line and we're in it." "DO NOT push her (my child) again, please" "HEY!!" I love that one...it gets everyone's attention. I let kids be kids, but, there's a line and too many bastard children pass it.

Angela GiasCloset.com said...

Joeh is exactly right. The kid acts that way because the 'Mom' allows it. You'd get a kick out of the way I talk to other people's kids...WITHOUT HESITATION AND WITHOUT APOLOGIES-period. If YOU won't control your kid, I will (*only in your demon is putting my kid in harms way...pushing, shoving, stealing, etc) If your kid wants to jump off the slide like superman...have at it. Just as long as they don't land on my kids. You can hear my mom voice across the park...trust me. Loud and STERN..."DO NOT push your way through please", "I'm sorry, there is a line and we're in it." "DO NOT push her (my child) again, please" "HEY!!" I love that one...it gets everyone's attention. I let kids be kids, but, there's a line and too many bastard children pass it.

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