Thursday, June 26, 2014

The case of the dissapearing...

friends. COme on now we have all had this case happen to us one day you guys are connected to the hips in the following years the friends just disappear.Now we have had some friends "disappear" and we were really happy that they did disappear those were the fare weather friends much like the fans that jump on a teams wagon when they are winning and all is know the type as long as their was liquor flowing and the party was going they were around...when the shit hit the fan those were the first ones that took a hike. Those are people that no longer matter and after much agonizing bullshit you go through you finally are so relieved of their drama that you feel like a huge rock has been lifted from your shoulders. Life has been pretty much a light and bright since we got rid of the stink and started to hang out with "normal" people. But that is cool because at that point you saw who your real friends were and along the way we have made some new true friends that we can see in our lives for a long time. Making friends after 40 is never easy but your older and wiser and smell the crap allot sooner than you were in your late 20's still trying to fit in. You cut the tumors right out.

Now saying this, their are also the ones that have just disappeared that we cared for immensely and we have no idea what the hell happened. I have had this happen to family members, my husband and myself. What the f*ck? One case in particular where everything was fine, the person was here through our daughters birth and after and then all of sudden he dropped off the face of the earth. This person was a super close friend of my husbands. We have called and tried to Facebook him but he just stopped communicating with my husband and it appears with just the old party crew. I know my husband says it does not bother him but I can tell it does especially when he has called many many times and he has not bothered to call back. These guys were pretty much glued to the hips for years. Now I understand that things change, people grow and you have your own families to tend to, but throughout the years no matter how long these two did not communicate it would just take one phone call and everything would be right back were it started. I do not know what happened but I thought more of this person that to just poof be gone from our lives.

This also leaves these questions? How long and for how long do you give a shit? When do you stop trying and just walk away and let it be?  Or do you continue trying and just get knocked over every time you try to communicate with the person?

1 comment:

joeh said...

Some people are just not very good at maintaining friendships (guilty).

Let it go.

Feeling the love......